Hi everyone. I have a question. Do you feel you get closer to God by being celibate or by practicing sexuality?
(a question I found in a Tantric Therapy group which got me curious to hear your answers as well!)
1) In a way, I’d say it’s irrelevant. You can get also closer to God through skateboarding. And you can get further from God through sexuality, if not practiced from a conscious, aware intention. It’s really all about your focus, your desire, your intention of what you’re seeking in your life. Sexuality is one powerful avenue, but powerful energies can push you away from truth and source as equally as they can bring you closer.
2) I feel every experience whether considered good, bad, holy, sin etc…takes us closer to god….there is nowhere that god is not…. creating a difference within ourselves, not honoring and loving the darkest parts of our self creates imbalance in that relationship…. for me I feel that everything leads to self awareness of who we are and our relationship with the whole…yes to sex, yes to celibacy, yes to divine partnership and yes to casual relations…when we balance the divine masculine/feminine within, the choices we make externally adjust accordingly…. much love
3) I do think gender can play a role, however when it comes to tantrikers, sexual energy is no longer necessarily connected to all the usual biological factors (external). I think celibacy versus being sexually active becomes more a matter of choice (internal). Also Tantra is a path to ultimately transcending all attachments including the attachment to sexuality. So when sexual desire has been fulfilled on a deep level, the need for sexual exchange becomes less urgent. Both external and internal factors have played a role in forming my own celibacy, which I am really enjoying. I am finding that I have more time & more energy for other things that I had when I had sexual partners. I also find that I have more inner freedom.