Counteracting the impact of domestic violence on future relationships: an autobiographical case study

I have often found myself struggling in intimate relationships because I haven’t known whether to trust my feelings or trust others in challenging interpersonal situations. Had I had positive relationship models, I have thought, it would have been easier to know what is normal and what is not in a relationship. How do adults behave around each other when they are together in a healthy relationship? How much silence is acceptable? How much conflict? When things don’t work, how do we make them better in a sustainable way, without creating unhealthy dependence or losing the connection? How does one accept the existence of other realities without invalidating her commitment to her own experience? If one allows for the possibility that hers is not the only perspective, how can one keep the integrity of having her own judgement and stand firmly behind her own truth?